She came to me with an important decision; whether to stay with a man that has ballistic yelling rages or to leave with her young children. He had stripped her self confidense away. "Why does he rage at me all the time?"
As I channeled within through the Tarot ink blot symbols before me I clearly saw her story. "Well the biggest problem is that all the qualities that he found desirable in you, he now hates." I told her.
"I'm not sure if I understand" she said. "Why does he always rave at me?"
"What I mean", I told her, "is he loves to conquer and win a woman with the qualities that most frighten him. The ugliness set in when you got comfortable. At that point you noticed his entire personality transform, just when you were content to be most yourself. Suddenly for no reason, he explodes into punishing abusive verbal tirades. You are being yelled at and bullied for being the sexual, vital, intelligent woman you always were.
But now you are his and though he fancies himself a liberated man, in truth, his intent is to brow beat and punish you for being exceptional. He becomes joyful making you cry and cower. This is because you are truly all the things he is not, but wishes he were. The more insecure you become, the more a new problem arises. He does not find an insecure woman beautiful, enticing or a challenge. What he has created in you through his tyrades has become foreign to him and he punishes or abuses because you "have changed". Thus he loves what he hates, and he hates what he loves."
"WHAT CAN I DO?" she asks.
"First of all this is your life and I can not and will not tell you what to do. As a reader it is my job to tell you what I see."
"I understand" she says softly.
"You have two daughters." I continued. "Remember that you are downloading your behaviour into them. So if you stay with your husbands abuse, likely, your daughters will also live with abusive partners as they get older. This is because you have taught them how to be comfortable with anxiety and that it's a normal way of life. If this is NOT what you want, consider a furture seperation. Prepare and pad your savings account for rent, deposits, and all else you will need. Get back to work and saving with a purpose and plan. No matter how much he explodes, you have the satisfaction knowing freedom is around the corner. No love is better then bad love. AND REMEMBER! Train the people in your life how to treat you.
She thanked me and hung up with a strategy, which only her wise actions with guidance of God can make a reality.
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